How to Attract a Guy – Initiate a Conversation
It seems like only yesterday that a woman who tried to approach a man would be labeled loose or wanton in her desires. Luckily for women today their independence is appreciated and initiating contact with a man she is interested in is perfectly appropriate. On the other hand, women sill need to behave like a lady while asserting themselves with men that they are interested in. Would you like to learn some techniques on how to attract a guy? Once you’ve got the dreamboat, do you know how to keep relationship issues from driving him away? Then the tips on getting a guy to like you and avoiding the issues that prevent building a relational bond between you might be of interest for you.
Eye contact with a warm smile
The same techniques that men have used for centuries will also work on them. There is nothing better than a seductive smile that will grab his attention in a heartbeat. This technique is a safe way to show the guy that you are available at a minimal risk of rejection. This used to be considered an immoral act for a woman in the past, but it is more acceptable by today’s standards. Although just because you can doesn’t mean that you need to overdo it, as this will most likely scare him away. If this method doesn’t work, then you are going to have to figure out a way to start a conversation with him.
Initiate a conversation
The setting that you are in will determine the type of conversation that you will want to attempt with the guy. Conversations in places such as supermarkets, café’s or shopping malls need to center around a casual theme. For example, if you are at a café or a supermarket you might lead the conversation with a question about a menu item or a particular food product. Of course you will want to continue the flirting to show that you are interested in something other than the food or sale item. If your location is at a local pub or sports bar then you can use a more forward approach and simply introduce yourself to the lucky guy. If that doesn’t work ask him for directions to the ladies room, while seducing him with your eyes and gentle smile which never fails.
Build on the attraction
The next task will focus on building the attraction when you do have his attention. A good way to accomplish this task is to find out what he is interested in. By gaining information on the sort of things he enjoys, you can capitalize in areas where your interests are shared. Try to relax and act naturally as most men are especially attracted to intelligent and independent women who do not have to put on an act to impress them. The best advice for women who want to get a guy to like them is to listen closely to what they have to say and gaze directly into their eyes while you listen. You’ll need to mostly listen to him, and when you do have a chance to respond you will need to let him know that you are available to spend more time with him in the future.
The best advice that I can give to any woman on how to attract a guy is to try not to overdo it. The next step is to apply these tips on getting a guy to like you. Remember also the tip on how to keep relationship issues like trying too hard to impress him from ruining the occasion.
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Tags: Putting together a romantic dinner is not easy. You feel obligated to plan a flawless evening just to impress upon her how very much you care. No matter whether it’s Valentines Day, her birthday, or your anniversary, preparing a romantic dinner for your girlfriend is an intimate and personal way to show her how you feel. To be certain that your romantic meal is a hit and not a miss, abide by these simple and important tips.
It is very important to make certain that your home is spotless before your girlfriend arrives. Remember, there are few turn-offs as great as laziness. So make sure you get your socks up off the floor! Okay, now that your place is clean, you’ll have to prepare it for your romantic evening. Setting the dinner table just right is a necessary prerequisite to establishing a romantic setting. The most romantic way to set the table is with the classic flowers and lightly scented candles. You may consider the candle lit dinner cliché, but if it’s cliché, it has become so for a very good reason: it suits the bill. Get some candles and set them up as your centerpiece along with a few roses, or add your own twist, using her favorite blooms. And if you truly want to impress her, you might even scatter some flower petals around the tablecloth.
Next you must consider the main course and the drinks. Don’t worry if you are not the world’s greatest chef; just fix what you cook well and she will be grateful. And just as significant as the food, is the beverage you serve with it. Perhaps one of the best drinks to compliment a romantic meal is champagne. Or you might select a good wine that enhances the food you’re serving. If you don’t know where to begin when it comes to choosing the right wine or champagne, ask someone at the store. Usually they have a good idea of which drinks are most appropriate for a particular occasion or meal.
Don’t overlook the capping moment of your romantic dinner: the dessert. Ending the meal with a delicious dessert will ensure that the evening will be perfect. Because dessert is such an important aspect to a successful romantic dinner, consider serving a scrumptious cheesecake. Cheesecake is both a romantic and elegant choice. Cheesecakes are available in a variety of flavors, so you can be sure to find one that she’ll like. And with so many online vendors of gourmet cheesecakes, finding and purchasing an elegant dessert is as easy as a click of the mouse. I personally enjoy a sticky turtle cheesecake, with a few fresh berries on the plate.
No matter the event, follows these easy steps for a flawless night. I promise you she’ll remember the attention to detail for a long time. Show your gratitude to me by sending me a New York cheesecake.
By Dean Cortez, creator of the Mack Tactics Dating System
In Mack Tactics, the best dating advice for today’s man, I stress that originality is the most important quality when you want to meet girls—from the way you dress, to how you approach the ladies and engage them in conversation.
When you want to pick up girls at bars, or you want to know how to pick up girls online, and you fail to make a unique impression, she’s going to automatically lump you in with the last 37 chumps who tried to talk to her—and within three minutes of you paying for her cocktail, she’ll be excusing herself to “go find her friends.”
(Don’t you just hate when women say that? Yeah, as if her friends are lost somewhere, in desperate need of food and water…)
The key to building a bond with her is to engage her attention and get her to share information about herself. Then you’ll tell her how much you relate and establish rapport with her.
I’ve taught hundreds of guys how to meet single girls, and one of my favorite conversational tactics is using Cold Reads.
This technique, which is used by psychics and palm readers, is actually some of the best dating advice. This is a way to make the other person feel like you understand what makes them tick, and what they’re going through, without them telling you.
The trick with Cold Reads is that the “observations” you’re making apply to virtually anyone. Yet there are psychological reasons why they work so effectively. Human beings are self-centered, and we generally accept claims about ourselves that reflect how we wish to be.
Also, people are vain. We want to be seen as unique. Even though Cold Reads are usually vague generalizations—which would apply to your sister, just as they would to the hottie in the VIP room at Embassy nightclub—we want to agree with the person who skillfully “reads” us, and we’ll believe they have unusual powers of perception.
So forget about asking the generic “job interview” questions. (“So what’s your name,” “where are you from,” etc.) Get ORIGINAL with your strategy in order to capture her attention and impress her with your charm and confidence.
If I’m in a club, talking to some babe who’s acting a bit hard to get, I’ll use a Cold Read:
“Y’know, Andrea, I get the sense that a lot of guys get the wrong idea when they first meet you. They think you’re stand-offish and a bit cold. But you’re actually a lot more sensitive, and funny, than people realize.”
Another example: “I get the sense it takes you a while to trust people, because you’ve been hurt before by someone who was really close to you. But the people that do earn your trust, you’re always there for them.”
Or, “I can tell that you’re someone who usually plays it safe and doesn’t take chances, but sometimes you’ve regretted it because you missed out on an opportunity. But then other times, you’re spontaneous and adventurous, and you do take chances…and that’s when you’ve had some of the best times of your life.”
If she agrees with my “read”—and honestly, I’ve never had a woman totally disagree—I’ll follow up by telling her that I can relate, because I’m the same way. This builds a bond between me and her. In order to solidify the bond, I’ll tell a quick story—one that illustrates how I’m the same type of person.
(If you’ve got five Cold Reads ready to use, you should also have five short stories to illustrate how you embody those same qualities.)
Here’s another cool one: “I can tell something has been weighing on your mind. You’re on the verge of making an important decision in your life, aren’t you.”
Pretty much all of us, at any given time, are contemplating a big decision (or one that is big to us, at least). Regardless, she’ll be surprised and impressed that you knew that about her. She’ll volunteer more information about herself—and now you’re engaged in a deep, authentic conversation instead of trying to fill awkward silences.
Much of what a cold reader does is simply repeating back what the subject has said. If she affirms that she’s on the verge of making a big decision, you should nod wisely and say, “Yes, that’s right, and you’re really having a hard time with it.” Act as if you already KNEW what she was going to say!
Some other Cold Reads that are vague yet seem “profound”:
“I can tell you have a strong need for others to like and admire you, but you also have a tendency to be critical of yourself.”
“You’ve got a hidden talent, or a passion, that most people don’t know about, and you want to pursue it— but something is holding you back.”
“At times, you’re really social and outgoing. But other times, you’re reserved and introverted.”
Once you add Cold Reads to your conversations with women, you’ll get a feel for which ones work best. You can use this method to pick up girls at bars, pick up girls are parties, or even show your friends how to pick up girls online. This is just one example of an original, thought-provoking conversational tactic. To learn the complete arsenal, and receive a free copy of our book “The SWAT Guide” (Secret Weapons & Attraction Tactics), visit my site and learn how to meet single girls on a whole new level.