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By Dean Cortez, creator of the Mack Tactics Dating System   

In Mack Tactics, the best dating advice for today’s man, I stress that originality is the most important quality when you want to meet girls—from the way you dress, to how you approach the ladies and engage them in conversation.

When you want to pick up girls at bars, or you want to know how to pick up girls online, and you fail to make a unique impression, she’s going to automatically lump you in with the last 37 chumps who tried to talk to her—and within three minutes of you paying for her cocktail, she’ll be excusing herself to “go find her friends.”

(Don’t you just hate when women say that? Yeah, as if her friends are lost somewhere, in desperate need of food and water…)

The key to building a bond with her is to engage her attention and get her to share information about herself. Then you’ll tell her how much you relate and establish rapport with her.

I’ve taught hundreds of guys how to meet single girls, and one of my favorite conversational tactics is using Cold Reads.

This technique, which is used by psychics and palm readers, is actually some of the best dating advice. This is a way to make the other person feel like you understand what makes them tick, and what they’re going through, without them telling you.

The trick with Cold Reads is that the “observations” you’re making apply to virtually anyone. Yet there are psychological reasons why they work so effectively. Human beings are self-centered, and we generally accept claims about ourselves that reflect how we wish to be.

Also, people are vain. We want to be seen as unique. Even though Cold Reads are usually vague generalizations—which would apply to your sister, just as they would to the hottie in the VIP room at Embassy nightclub—we want to agree with the person who skillfully “reads” us, and we’ll believe they have unusual powers of perception.

So forget about asking the generic “job interview” questions. (“So what’s your name,” “where are you from,” etc.) Get ORIGINAL with your strategy in order to capture her attention and impress her with your charm and confidence.

If I’m in a club, talking to some babe who’s acting a bit hard to get, I’ll use a Cold Read:  

“Y’know, Andrea, I get the sense that a lot of guys get the wrong idea when they first meet you. They think you’re stand-offish and a bit cold. But you’re actually a lot more sensitive, and funny, than people realize.”

Another example: “I get the sense it takes you a while to trust people, because you’ve been hurt before by someone who was really close to you. But the people that do earn your trust, you’re always there for them.”

Or, “I can tell that you’re someone who usually plays it safe and doesn’t take chances, but sometimes you’ve regretted it because you missed out on an opportunity. But then other times, you’re spontaneous and adventurous, and you do take chances…and that’s when you’ve had some of the best times of your life.”

If she agrees with my “read”—and honestly, I’ve never had a woman totally disagree—I’ll follow up by telling her that I can relate, because I’m the same way. This builds a bond between me and her. In order to solidify the bond, I’ll tell a quick story—one that illustrates how I’m the same type of person.

(If you’ve got five Cold Reads ready to use, you should also have five short stories to illustrate how you embody those same qualities.)

Here’s another cool one: “I can tell something has been weighing on your mind. You’re on the verge of making an important decision in your life, aren’t you.”

Pretty much all of us, at any given time, are contemplating a big decision (or one that is big to us, at least). Regardless, she’ll be surprised and impressed that you knew that about her. She’ll volunteer more information about herself—and now you’re engaged in a deep, authentic conversation instead of trying to fill awkward silences.  

Much of what a cold reader does is simply repeating back what the subject has said. If she affirms that she’s on the verge of making a big decision, you should nod wisely and say, “Yes, that’s right, and you’re really having a hard time with it.” Act as if you already KNEW what she was going to say!

Some other Cold Reads that are vague yet seem “profound”:

“I can tell you have a strong need for others to like and admire you, but you also have a tendency to be critical of yourself.”

“You’ve got a hidden talent, or a passion, that most people don’t know about, and you want to pursue it— but something is holding you back.”

“At times, you’re really social and outgoing. But other times, you’re reserved and introverted.”

Once you add Cold Reads to your conversations with women, you’ll get a feel for which ones work best. You can use this method to pick up girls at bars, pick up girls are parties, or even show your friends how to pick up girls online. This is just one example of an original, thought-provoking conversational tactic. To learn the complete arsenal, and receive a free copy of our book “The SWAT Guide” (Secret Weapons & Attraction Tactics), visit my site and learn how to meet single girls on a whole new level.

The Art of Approaching ebook has caused quite a stir and there have been a lot of people talking about it.

If a book teaches men how to approach women, you can bet I’ll be one of the first to read it!

What I found interesting was that this was the only book in the entire seduction world that focuses upon the approach. For most guys, the biggest sticking point would be the approach, and this is very important for men who want to meet women.

I know from experience how scary it is when you get approach anxiety and want to walk up to a hot girl and just start talking to her. I mean your adrenaline is pumping, your heart is racing and your palms are sweaty. This sounds like you’re going into war doesn’t it!

If you want to know how to approach women in detail, then the Art of Approaching is a great guide for this purpose. The book has several chapters and they include the topics relating to:

• The Art Of Body Language
• The Art Of Confidence
• The Art Of Approaching
• The Art Of Flirting
• The Art Of Storytelling
• The Art Of Being Social

Even though the book does cover other aspects of dating and seduction, the focus is mainly about the initial approach. I had no idea how complicated the approach was until Joseph Matthews broke it down into step-by-step detail and explained the various kinds of openers around.

Joseph illustrates how you can use direct openers to show her your interest without being creepy. He also points out at least 3 more ways to open women that are less known than conventional methods such as using indirect or opening situationally. Further, the ebook talks about the mental aspect of approaching women.

Also, the best thing about the ebook is that the author himself did not previously experience a successful dating life and had to learn the hard way. Joseph is no natural when it comes to the dating game, so he knows how a normal guy would feel when they want to approach women!

If you want to learn more about this book, why don’t you read my article about it: Art of Approaching review

Also check out my ezinearticle.com of it here: Art of Approaching women

Being a success at flirting with males is more complex than it seems at first glance. Too much attention can give men the impression that you are not worth their own attention. When you play hard it get, you may discourage guys who lack the confidence to keep trying with women who won’t give them the time of day. An effective flirter will take a couple steps in advance for every step they fall backward. When you want to flirt with a man it is extremely important to incorporate touching of some kind into the process. When it comes to approaching men, the first thing one should do is give them the chance to make the first move.

Walk towards them in the bar and give them eye contact. Lean nearby or reach across them to pickup a napkin or a drink. If they don’t take the bait, ask them a question that invites a longer response. Do not use classic pick up lines like, ‘do you come here often? Or ‘My name is so-and-so, what’s yours? To make yourself interesting, get the attention of your audience by throwing a question that would make them be surprised. Explain to them that you have an old friend visiting and you want to find our the nicest spot for a gourmet meal or a game of bowling. Inquire whether they mind if you take a stab at what their job is by what they are wearing.

Be playfull!Let them know that you are a master in guessing their names after their looks. When they ask for more private information about you then try to play shy. This is one of my best kept flirting secrets that works extremely well. Do not let the conversation become a back and forth series of questions and do not rush to agree or acknowledge similarities that are not that coincidental. When your ‘hit on’ man is together with other people, give him reasons to come back. He will speak with his guy friends about you and this will give him more confidence to move the flirtation forward.

Remember that you cannot control his own abilities, but you can make him comfortable if he needs more confidence or you can make it more of a challenge if he is a natural. And always remember what is most important to put on display: Your personality By flirting the right way you can literally make any man want you – even if they were not interested previously.