Flirting Skills

Archive for September, 2007

If you are seriously looking to meet your soul mate online, you will very likely be paying a reasonable amount of money to view other people’s profiles and get in contact with potential dates.

However you need to be aware of the many and varied online dating games that some people play. Internet dating is a successful industry and many couples have met in this way, but not everyone treats it with complete respect.

What Are Online Dating Games?

Online dating games are ways of using these dating websites to have fun, rather than using them with the sole intention of meeting that someone special. There is a significant group of people that use these sites specifically to play online dating games, with no real intention of meeting a partner.

They may get in touch with lots of different people and simply email back and forth (and sometimes never reply to a person at all), or they may meet up with different people once or twice before going on to the next person.

For those who are using these sites responsibly and with respect to the needs of other people, those who play online dating games like this can be a real problem. There are ways to combat this though.

The old saying “you get what you pay for” is as true today as it ever was, and it applies online as well. There are several free dating sites on the internet, which allow you to use all their services for free. This kind of site tends to attract the people who like playing online dating games, as they don’t need to pay for the privilege.

In general, the higher quality the website and the more they charge for a membership, the less likely you are to encounter people who are not serious about meeting a potential life partner.

It pays to check out possible dating sites before joining as well. See if they offer a free trial membership which might be abused by people who like to play games instead of meet people for friendship and relationships.

Finally, if you are searching for a dating site to join online, read the testimonials they offer before joining. It can give you an idea of what to expect from a membership. You can also get a feel for the type of people who join each site, and whether they are people whom you would be happy to meet.

You can protect yourself to a certain extent from online dating games, but be prepared to pay a price for the privilege.

While online dating for single parents may seem like something “new” the reality of the matter is that the only new aspect present is the ‘online’ aspect. Single parent dating has existed since time immemorial. Granted, it really was not until the popularity of the television program THE COURTSHIP OF EDDIE’S FATHER that the multitude of ridiculous misconceptions of single parenting were removed from the public consciousness. (We all owe Bill Bixby a huge debt of gratitude)

We also owe a great deal of gratitude for the inventive minds that helped forge the current online dating revolution. In reality, non-traditional forms of accepted dating have always been around us. Whether they were the often maligned (and silly) computer dating matches of the 1970’s or they were the common newspaper classified advertisement, specialized manners in which people were to be matched together have always been around us.

With the great expansion of computers into the home, the ability to meet potential dating partners became accessible. While the early days of such dating services were primarily directed towards a much younger client base, the online dating universe has greatly expanded far beyond what many have imagined and now includes many niches with online dating for single parents now a prominent part of it.

The Positive Nature of Online Dating for Single Parents

There are those single parents who may feel that being a single parent is a detriment to success in the dating arena. This is, quite honestly, nonsense. If fact, is one is a single parent such parentage can be a huge plus for an individual looking for a partner. After all, it takes a great deal of commitment and responsibility to be a parent and if one has demonstrated such responsibility through raising a child through the difficult obstacles of having to do it alone, what better testament can be found in terms of speaking about the character of this individual?

Far too often, people will try and wallow on negatives as opposed to centering on positives. This is made even worse when the negatives really do not exist at all and are merely constructs created in the mind through worry. In short, most impediments to success in the realm of online dating for single parents comes not from external factors, but within one’s own psyche.

In short, online dating for single parents can be a tremendously fun exercise for all and concerns of success vs. failure should not weigh down the mind.

OK.  You have joined a couple of dating services and written a killer profile.  You’ve uploaded a good picture and now you are going to chat with a contact.  What now?  How do you start separating those who have real potential and those who don’t have any potential at all?  You need to find out something about who this strange woman really is and not just who she wants you to believe she is.  It would be nice if women wore labels like “Gold Digger” or “Daddy’s girl”….but they don’t so it’s up to you to find these things out and you can’t just ask direct questions.  You need to know what mistakes you can avoid making and how to impress this lady if you decide you want to do that.

After you are past the initial small talk, ask her, “What are the biggest mistakes guys make when dating online?”  Listen carefully to her answers.  She’s going to tell you a lot about herself and her views on men in general.

Next you should ask her, “What do you really think about online dating?”  Now she will tell you if she has had any bad experiences dating o line and help you to avoid making the same things wrong.

Now for the all-important one…..”What caused the break up in your last relationship?”  If she puts all the blame on the guy, you should probably move on to the next prospect.  If she takes all the blame herself, you should probably do the same.  If she says the breakup was by mutual consent or that the relationship just wasn’t right for either of them, you’ve heard the right answer.  Move forward but always with caution.

Asking the right questions will give you insight and make you more confident when you meet the lady for the first time.