Walk towards them in the bar and give them eye contact. Lean nearby or reach across them to pickup a napkin or a drink. If they don’t take the bait, ask them a question that invites a longer response. Do not use classic pick up lines like, ‘do you come here often? Or ‘My name is so-and-so, what’s yours? To make yourself interesting, get the attention of your audience by throwing a question that would make them be surprised. Explain to them that you have an old friend visiting and you want to find our the nicest spot for a gourmet meal or a game of bowling. Inquire whether they mind if you take a stab at what their job is by what they are wearing.

Be playfull!Let them know that you are a master in guessing their names after their looks. When they ask for more private information about you then try to play shy. This is one of my best kept flirting secrets that works extremely well. Do not let the conversation become a back and forth series of questions and do not rush to agree or acknowledge similarities that are not that coincidental. When your ‘hit on’ man is together with other people, give him reasons to come back. He will speak with his guy friends about you and this will give him more confidence to move the flirtation forward.

Remember that you cannot control his own abilities, but you can make him comfortable if he needs more confidence or you can make it more of a challenge if he is a natural. And always remember what is most important to put on display: Your personality By flirting the right way you can literally make any man want you – even if they were not interested previously.